Fear of putting yourself / your ideas on the internet

 I want to share my thoughts and experiences, I want to share stories with you that would help you understand, better,  the reality that we live in.


But there is a fear of doing this.

There is a fear that prevents us from sharing our thoughts 

I will give you 2 examples:

1. I have had this blog for a long time, I havent shared much on it, part of the reason why is my own time management and the other part is fear, "what if my employer sees this?" 

Lame.

2. My friend has made several funny videos that they never shared on the internet, why? 

similar reasons, fear of being judged by others. Fear that if I put my self out there people will not like me and then they will end their relation ship with me.


Yeah what if my employer sees what I have put up on social media ? 

- they can choose to fire me 

Why would they choose to fire me ? 

- well the fear is that if I put out my ideas, that I dont want them to know about example Ideas and stories and beliefs that they may find questionable or as a threat - they may want to end our relationship and I will have no job. 


Lol so the fear of sharing what you really think comes from the fear of losing your job. Great.


And why do you fear losing your job? 

- Because you think you cant replace the employer / the relationship quickly with something better / similar 


Humm, well, now there is something to be said about human nature, we are tribal by design and fear losing the trust of the tribe. 

Lets try to imagine the world our ansestors lived in for millions of years

This fear probabily stems from the fear in the cave people's mind: if I am not with the tribe - I will die in the jungle alone. I wont get the shared food, I wont get the shared game help of hunting an animal. Shit. priority numero uno is do not be thrown out of the tribe.


But there is a double standard.


There is always a higherarchy and status within the tribe.

The members at the top of the higherarchy are not thinking and fearing about being cast out of the tribe. 

They are probabily thinking about which partner to play with next, or commanding other tribe members to group together and go on a hunt for food for today. They dont have the fear because of their competency and the massive trust from the tribe in them. 


The tribe needs them and will be really helpless without them.

They have gained the tribe's trust due to their actions in past have helped the tribe survive and fight against the elements of nature, and due to their ability in helping the tribe find food and other valuables.

The tribe needs them and so is more willing to tolerate and put up with what they want.

The tribe needs them because they are stronger, which helps the tribe if they are under attack by another tribe or animals.

The tribe needs them because their genes are "good" and so the tribe wants more like them.


Coming back to the 21st centuary:

We are not living in the jungles anymore.

There is not a high risk of you being eaten by an animal.

In many places food shortage is a thing of past.

Yet the human brain still seeks security of being with the tribe

it still fears being cast out.

It still values genes that whould have been really helpful in the jungles, not so much 


Further reading:

Tribes by Seth Godin

Tame The primitive brain 

Owen Cook - Study of Social Dynamics

Jordan peterson - lobsters

Civilized to Death

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